For People Pleasers, Over-Givers, And High Achievers Who Keep Saying Yes—While Others Play The Game And Win, Know This…
The workplace isn’t built for fairness. It’s built for those who know how to navigate power—while you’re stuck over-delivering, getting overlooked, and wondering why others don’t play by the same rules.
You’re not the problem. But without a strategy, the workplace will keep using your strengths against you
The Recalibration Code rewires your mindset so that you stop over-giving, over-apologising, and over-extending—without guilt.
- No more saying yes out of fear of rejection.
- No more being the go-to fixer while others take credit.
- No more bending over backward to be seen as a “team player.”
It’s time to stop playing by their rules—and start playing to win.
It’s Not You It’s The Way The Workplace Is Designed
You work hard. You’re reliable. You do what’s right.
So why do you keep getting overlooked, overworked, and undervalued—while others, who don’t put in half the effort, seem to climb the ladder effortlessly?
It’s not because you’re not good enough.
It’s because the workplace isn’t built to reward kindness and hard work—it rewards those who know how to play the game.
- Toxic workplaces exploit your strengths.
- Office politics reward the ones who take credit—not the ones who do the work.
- Leaders aren’t always chosen for their ability—they’re chosen for their influence.
If you’ve ever thought,
- Why don’t they appreciate the effort I put in?
- Why do the wrong people get promoted?
- Why do I feel guilty for setting boundaries, when others do it so easily?
It’s because the workplace isn’t a meritocracy. It’s a system designed to favour those who know how to navigate power dynamics.
But, that doesn’t mean you have to become like them.
It just means you need a different strategy.
The Recalibration Code gives you the tools to navigate work on your terms—without guilt, burnout, or playing dirty.
The Recalibration Code—The Power Move No One Taught You
You Don’t Have to Change Who You Are—Just How You Navigate Work
You’ve tried to set boundaries before.
Maybe you’ve told yourself:
- Next time, I’ll say no.
- I just need to be more confident.
- I shouldn’t care so much about what others think.
But when the moment comes, the old patterns kick in.
- You say yes, even when you don’t want to.
- You overcommit, even when you’re exhausted.
- You keep the peace, even when it costs you.
Why? Because your brain has been wired to respond this way.
Most people think boundaries are about “learning to say no.”
That’s not the problem. The real issue? Your response patterns are automatic.
You don’t say yes because you want to. You say yes because you feel like you have to.
Because somewhere along the way, you were taught that:
- Saying no makes you difficult.
- Speaking up makes you a problem.
- Hard work alone should be enough.
The Recalibration Code helps you change the game—without changing who you are.
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How It Works: The ERBO Framework
Instead of forcing yourself to act differently, we change the automatic responses that drive your behaviour.
E – Event: Something happens (a demanding email, a last-minute request).
R – Response: Your automatic reaction kicks in—saying yes, overcommitting, avoiding conflict.
B – Belief: Your hidden beliefs drive that response (“If I say no, they’ll think I’m difficult.”)
O – Outcome: You end up stressed, overworked, or undervalued.
The Recalibration Code helps you break this cycle by shifting the belief—so your responses change naturally, without forcing it.
What happens when you recalibrate?
- You say no without guilt.
- You push back without fear of rejection.
- You set boundaries without hesitation.
You stop being a workplace softie—without becoming someone you’re not.
That’s the power of recalibration.
Here’s How the Recalibration Code Coaching Program Works:
The Recalibration Code Coaching Program helps you break free from the unconscious patterns that keep you stuck in people-pleasing, hesitation, and guilt-driven decisions. Using the ERBO framework, this program rewires how you respond to workplace pressures, difficult conversations, and high-stakes interactions.
Step 1: Identify Hidden Beliefs Holding you Back
“If I set boundaries, they’ll think I’m selfish.”
“If I say no, they’ll be disappointed in me.”
(We dismantle these beliefs—so they no longer control your responses.)
Step 2: Recalibrate Your Mindset In Real Time
Learn the ERBO framework—a powerful system that rewires your responses at the root level.
Step 3: Master Workplace Power Moves (Without Playing Dirty)
Learn exactly what to say when you need to set a boundary, handle a difficult boss, or push back without guilt.
It’s not just me who thinks getting your mindset recalibrated via The Recalibration Code is Cool!
Doreen Horsely A Case Study
Matt Love
“Working with Elaine has been very eye opening for me. I was very surprised how effective one session could be- really brought a lot of awareness of how there was a root cause of many different things that was happening in my life. And that awareness enabled me to identify where I was still judging myself…. I learnt that it was a very old belief coming up and it’s not true in anyway, helped me really move forward….Since that day I’ve made better decisions…”
Lola Bailey
“So there was a problem that I had before the mastermind. ….. It was like this fear of me not getting things done. And it wasn’t a fear that I was procrastinating. It was just like, I’m never going to get it done. It was this really kind of weird mindset, not really understanding how I could get myself out of that hole... What was absolutely fascinating about the laser coaching you did (MRM) …. was that the problem that I had literally disappeared. It literally just evaporated. It was like magic. It was like magic. It just disappeared. I have not once thought about it since.. Not once. Not once….it was almost like a miracle.” (Taken from an interview I did with Lola)
Nicole Wyrwa
“I approached Elaine because I found myself stuck in my thinking and could not focus correctly on a future project I wanted to develop.
With her great listening skills, her unique way of asking me questions she was able to make me see the reason for being stuck and disoriented.
I could resonate a lot with her coaching style, she is straight forward, honest and direct but always combined with an amazing sense of empathy, humour and wariness. Not only that we found the root for my struggle, but she also prised my sense of determination out and now I am able to follow again my vision and new project. I can highly recommend working with Elaine if you want to get a clear understanding why you struggle and how you could move forward.”
Why Now Is the Time to Act
Every Day You Stay Stuck, The Workplace Wins.
If nothing changes, nothing changes.
What happens if you keep going like this?
- More burnout, because you’re doing the work of three people.
- More resentment, because others take advantage of your generosity.
- More missed opportunities, because those who set boundaries move ahead—while you stay stuck.
You’ve seen it before.
- The person who knows how to push back gets promoted.
- The one who talks a big game (but does half the work) gets recognised.
- The boss who piles everything on you never stops—because they know you will always try to accommodate
Why Now Is the Time to Act
Every Day You Stay Stuck, The Workplace Wins.
The system won’t change—but you can.
The workplace is designed to reward those who know how to navigate power.
If you don’t learn how to advocate for yourself, you’ll keep being overworked and undervalued.
The Recalibration Code is the advantage you need to stop being overlooked and start owning your career.
WORK SHOULDN’T FEEL LIKE A BATTLEFIELD
- Your career should feel like progress, not survival.
- Your voice should be heard, not dismissed.
- Your work should be valued, not exploited.
The first step? Recalibrating how you respond—so you stop getting stuck in guilt and hesitation.
This method will change the way you experience work—for good.
You’ve given enough. Now, it’s your turn to win.
When People-Pleasing Runs Your Career, It Costs You More Than You Think…
Mindset strain
Constantly trying to please others triggers self-doubt and negative emotions that spiral, making you feel trapped in automatic responses you can’t seem to control.
emotional overload
When your automatic responses are driven by beliefs you haven’t recalibrated, the emotional load doesn’t stop when you leave work .The Recalibration Code helps you break free from these exhausting cycles.
WORK LIFE IMBALANCE
Saying yes too often leaves you overwhelmed and unable to switch off, turning your downtime into a constant cycle of guilt and exhaustion.
Daily Interactions
Worrying about others’ perceptions stops you from speaking up, sharing your ideas, or prioritising your own needs at work and in life.
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TOUGH CONVERSATIONS
You dread setting boundaries or having tough conversations, fearing backlash or rejection, which keeps you stuck in silence and frustration.
Relationships
It can be difficult to genuinely connect with and motivate others when interpersonal struggles create tension, leading to a sense of disconnection that may feel powerless to resolve.